He came to see me off this time again just as he did last
time. Same purpose, same time, same station … but something had changed for
good … we were married now … J
I always remind myself how stupid it would have been had I
decided to remain single. I would have missed something so solid, so dependable
and a world brimming full of love and trust that I have never experienced
before. It is great to be married.
So this is a note to some of those like me going through the
mundane routine of finding their Prince Charming. Yes, being a woman’s blog,
the thoughts and experiences will obviously be woman centered … any man reading
this is welcome to share their views in the comments section J
Recently I had an opportunity to look at the match making
routine from a 3rd person’s perspective and I realized how biased we
can be. Biased towards everything we come across in a Man’s “Biodata”. Now Fonow
woman defer your judgment until I complete. I know the men do that too but we
don’t discount them either.
The first and
foremost thing you see is his looks.” Oh my god he is so gora (fair complexion)
… I’m sure he must want a gori … “OR “Look at him, he is no fair and handsome
but he wants a fair complexioned woman … I’m sure he wants fair kids … I hope
they look straight out of UCB ads ... (Giggle)” “Hehehe look at him … a wannabe model ...”
Second place come his qualifications, if he is well
qualified, he is either a bookworm, a workaholic or simply BORING. If he is a
graduate, he is just a graduate! So below your standards!
Third would be his
salary, if it’s higher than us, it’s desirable. The story doesn’t end here,
dare he mention the expected salary of his would be bride, He is either cheap
or a dowry seeker or looking for a golden egg laying hen! If it’s lesser, he
isn’t one of those performing employees! Then comes family background, likes
and dislikes expectations from the marriage, etc. etc. The list is endless and
yes it’s also subjective to every bride to be … J
Honestly, I have done that too, sometimes as a defense
mechanism and sometimes out of sheer disinterest. Well, who is to blame either the boy or the
girl because we have grown up looking at everything so objectively, that we
forget to notice we are not a Company’s shares and hence there is more to every
boy and every girl … more than just a face value.
When I met my husband for the first time at that Café, I too
went with preconceived notions as you all do today. Hence expected to spend no more than 30
minutes, and then just as absorbed I was in my own world, unknowingly in the
next 90 minutes we became a part of each other’s world … Something clicked! Yes
it did! We clicked! J
No matter what they tell you
it happens. Your parents may try to talk you out of it but it does … that click
… J When you are least
expecting it. This may sound totally filmy to you but take a good look at your
life and you will realize that all those good things that have happened to you
were never planned... they just happened to you when you least expected J
Credit your parents for
putting you on to such a dating spree that helps you meet all the wrong ones
before Mr. Right comes along. Look at every boy you meet like a new book you
are browsing through… you never know... that book could just be for you to keep
… J
Here
is a scene from my all-time favorite movie, Hitch... No matter where, no matter when, no matter
who ... Every guy has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet ... just needs
the right broom ;)
